Perfectionists are often not good friends to themselves. From relentlessly high standards to being their own worst critic, perfectionism can sabotage the most important relationship you’ll ever have -the one with yourself. Here are five ways perfectionism works against you.
I’ve become a firm believer that the most important relationship you can have is the one with yourself. But so often, this relationship is a battleground rather than something we nurture and invest in. Most of us would never speak to others the way we do to ourselves—saving all the positive for others and all…
What would a good friend say to you right now? It’s a question we know well, yet so many of us struggle to answer it. Exploring why we treat ourselves so differently from how we’d treat a friend.
The January days are blurring together in rain and greyness. What if the antidote isn’t doing more, but noticing more? Small moments that become little anchors, making each day feel distinct rather than identical.
You were doing well, then stress hit and suddenly you’re back to old patterns – withdrawing, avoiding, feeling stuck. Here’s why this isn’t failure, and what these patterns are really trying to tell you
Have you ever found yourself unable to speak during a difficult conversation, your mind going completely blank? Or felt stuck and unable to move forward, despite desperately wanting to? This is your freeze response – often misunderstood as laziness or lack of motivation, but actually a profound survival mechanism. In this post, I explore what…
When eating issues aren’t taken seriously by doctors or family, it can lead to shame and self-doubt. This reflective post explores why eating difficulties are often misunderstood and why your experience still matters, even if others don’t recognise it yet.
Anxiety can hide in plain sight, especially when life is busy. This short reflection explores how anxiety can quietly build beneath the surface and why it isn’t a personal failure.
An overview of what counselling can offer, who it may help, and how the process can support self-awareness, confidence, and emotional wellbeing.
There’s a lot of New Year noise around right now, and it can quietly pull us into comparison. This post explores how constant messages about change can create pressure and anxiety, and offers a gentle invitation to tune back into your own values and begin the year in a way that feels right for you.
The winter solstice marks a turning point. Not because everything suddenly becomes easier, but because something subtly shifts. The days do not immediately feel brighter, yet the return of light is already underway. In Cornwall, the Montol festival marks this moment by gathering people together in the darkness, reminding us that the longest night does…
I’ve been thinking about uncertainty this week and how it’s part of everyday life. This reflection explores how uncertainty shows up, how we try to escape it, and what it might mean to live alongside it.


