Shapeshifting and people pleasing are often mentioned in the same breath but they’re not the same thing. This post explores what shapeshifting actually is, where it begins, how it develops and what it can cost over a lifetime.
Fawning by Dr Ingrid Clayton is, I believe, the first book dedicated entirely to the fawn response written by a practitioner. In this recommendation I share why it moved me personally, how it has changed my practice, and who I think should read it.
If you’re a fawner, the chances are you’re also an expert orchestrator, managing situations, preparing for every eventuality, trying to influence what happens around you. This post explores what’s really going on underneath that pattern, and why it keeps you trapped.
Fawning is the least well known of the four trauma responses and yet it’s the one I see most in my counselling practice. Unlike fight, flight or freeze, it doesn’t look like a trauma response from the outside. This post explores what it is, how it shows up and what it quietly costs.
Harsh self-criticism is often regarded as a strength but what if the voice doing the criticising isn’t even yours? In this post I explore where the inner critic comes from, how to recognise when it belongs to someone else, and how to begin creating space for a kinder, more honest voice.
