Shapeshifting and people pleasing are often mentioned in the same breath but they’re not the same thing. This post explores what shapeshifting actually is, where it begins, how it develops and what it can cost over a lifetime.
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Fawning by Dr Ingrid Clayton is, I believe, the first book dedicated entirely to the fawn response written by a practitioner. In this recommendation I share why it moved me personally, how it has changed my practice, and who I think should read it.
If you’re a fawner, the chances are you’re also an expert orchestrator, managing situations, preparing for every eventuality, trying to influence what happens around you. This post explores what’s really going on underneath that pattern, and why it keeps you trapped.
Feeling like you’ve never quite fulfilled your potential is one of the most quietly painful experiences to carry. You work hard, you keep trying and yet something always seems just out of reach. This post explores why the search itself might be part of what’s keeping you stuck.
Fawners are often the most accommodating, dedicated people in any workplace. But when the culture shifts around them, that accommodation can quietly become the path to burnout. This post explores why and what it reveals.
Fawning is the least well known of the four trauma responses and yet it’s the one I see most in my counselling practice. Unlike fight, flight or freeze, it doesn’t look like a trauma response from the outside. This post explores what it is, how it shows up and what it quietly costs.
Burnout doesn’t happen to people who don’t care. It happens to the ones who care the most. A closer look at the psychological profile of those most vulnerable to burnout and why their greatest strengths can also put them most at risk.
Self-awareness is widely celebrated as the foundation of personal growth. But what if it’s also keeping you stuck? A reflection on the hidden edges of self-awareness and an invitation to look at what you might be missing.
‘Your body is your home.’ It’s one of my favourite sayings and yet so many of us are completely disconnected from the body we live in, whilst investing enormous care in the homes around us. A reflection on what it might mean to come home to yourself.
This book was on my ‘to read’ list for years before it made its way to my bookshelf, where it sat quietly for many months. I knew I needed to read it but I wasn’t ready. By the time I finally picked it up, it made more sense. A personal recommendation of Susan Cain’s Quiet…
Do you remember when you stopped being creative? For most of us it happened quietly, somewhere in our school years, without anyone really noticing. But what we lose with it runs deeper than we realise, and finding your way back might matter more than you think.
You’re working hard, investing in yourself and striving for more, so why does it still feel like you’re not quite moving forward? You might have a handbrake on. Not fully on, but just enough to keep you from getting where you want to go. Here’s how to recognise it and what might be causing it.
