The dialogue between your internal and external world can be exhausting. You might look confident and capable on the outside, but internally you’re drowning in self-doubt and criticism. This split is a constant battlefield – like living in a double bind. But here’s what changes when you improve your internal relationship: better self-trust leads to…

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day – a day celebrating romantic love. Today, I’m inviting you to take yourself on a date. Because the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. Inspired by Julia Cameron’s ‘artist’s date,’ this is an invitation to treat yourself with the care and attention you deserve.

‘Should’ is one of the most damaging words in our vocabulary when it comes to self-friendship. The psychoanalyst Karen Horney called it “the tyranny of the shoulds”, keeping us split between our true and idealised selves. Shoulds disconnect us from the present, reinforce shame, kill self-compassion, and keep us stuck in relentless self-criticism. This post…

The words we use when we speak to ourselves aren’t simply passing thoughts – they shape how we feel, underpin our self-worth, and ultimately influence how we live our lives. Negative self-talk creates neural pathways that become our default routes. But neuroplasticity works both ways: you can create new, kinder pathways. It starts with noticing…

Perfectionists are often not good friends to themselves. From relentlessly high standards to being their own worst critic, perfectionism can sabotage the most important relationship you’ll ever have -the one with yourself. Here are five ways perfectionism works against you.

I’ve become a firm believer that the most important relationship you can have is the one with yourself. But so often, this relationship is a battleground rather than something we nurture and invest in. Most of us would never speak to others the way we do to ourselves—saving all the positive for others and all…

What would a good friend say to you right now? It’s a question we know well, yet so many of us struggle to answer it. Exploring why we treat ourselves so differently from how we’d treat a friend.